A Few Minutes to Loving

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim , Assalamualaikum wbt I bid to all people out there , Salam Jumaah ^_^ and before I lost my words , please take note that 10th of Muharram is on Saturday, 24th of November 2012 :) It is sunnah to fast for 2 days (either 9/10 Muharram or 10/11 Muharram)!

So don't forget to fast to get awesome *rewards from Allah! Do remind your beloved family members and friends too! ♥

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Fasting on the day of ‘Asyura, I hope will be an expiation of sins for the year before” (Hadith Muslim)

Hmmm , actually , with my humbleness heart , I would like to invite you to read this sweet and mesmerized article. I did posted it yesterday on my Facebook acc. But , I think it just to sweet to read. So I want to post it here anyway and again. Happy reading , and I hope u get something from it :)

First scene
Have you ever experienced a nightmare of losing a person you really love? How much did you cry then? And when we are suddenly awaken; we look for that person and enjoy and appreciate his being.

Second scene
You visit a doctor and he asks you for a check-up; when you show the results and he says that you would be alive only for a few months; you feel something strange in yourself. You decide to be kind, passionate, patient, forgiving and in these left days. Then we know the value of our health much better and hope we could get back to those days we were ok.

Third scene
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Last scene
An old couple was living together; the man was always complaining of his wife snoring; but the woman never believed in what he said and imagined he is just bringing excuses to leave the bed. One day, the man decided to prove her snoring so he prepares a recording device and record all the noise she was making while sleeping. Next morning he was happily awaken to prove himself by evidences he had collected. But the woman was sleeping deeply forever; she had passed away just the last night. Now the recorded snoring of his beloved wife is the only lullaby by which he goes to sleep.

Some times in life we experience things like this. There is a saying that ''we only value what we have, when it is lost.'' If we become aware that the relations among people are bridges that our behavior might ruin them; definitely then we would care much more as we know these bridges if burnt, might never be repaired.

Unlimited appreciation and love are two greatest powers that exist in this world; when we daily show that we put value of having each other, even by presenting a smile or a warm word; we in fact welcome blessings and good things in our life.
As we see and contact with our family daily; we forget to appreciate their being and that we should thank them and know their values.
We forget that for those moments that we were alone, a friend fill in our loneliness and his/her voice becomes a painkiller for us.

We forget that somebody out of nowhere, too our hands and helped us; we forget to appreciate these blessings...
We can thank for these things we have in our life; for a present, from a friend and his presence, for the beauties of nature, for silence and peace we have, for a person we newly met, for love, etc. the more thankful we are, the more reasons we find to thank.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says:
The best of pious men are those who associates with people and the one who is not like this has no blessing 

When you are appreciated, you become happy and ready to help more. So, if you have a child, let him know that you are thankful of him. Sometimes parent thank their children to be a part of their life. Couples should thank each other, and children should appreciate their parents who shared their life with them. Let's thank all of those we know and let them know how much we value their beings in our life.

There is a direct connection between Families who show their appreciations and those who are always together emotionally and physically. Teenagers who have confidence are those who are appreciated more because they have learnt to respect their own value. Also spouses who are appreciated, love their partner more and respect him or her better and deeper. That's also true about brothers and sisters who share a house while they grow, after getting dependent and separated they know each other's value more and care about it.
No doubt that a reason to social cohesion is the time we spent for each other.

They are so sweet rite ? May Allah grant us everlasting happiness with our spouse till Jannah ^_^ 

If we all know these points; why do we do nothing to value our minutes and we lose it easily? Let's take an action it's time to appreciate life.

Fall in Love with the Real Thing

When my heart burst into tears.. Be strong Nur Haziqqah , u are not created to face tears all of your life.

It’s never easy to let go. Or is it? Most of us would agree that there are few things harder than letting go of what we love. And yet, sometimes that’s exactly what we have to do. Sometimes we love things that we can’t have. Sometimes we want things that are not good for us. And sometimes we love what Allah does not love. To let go of these things is hard. Giving up something the heart adores is one of the hardest battles we ever have to fight.

But what if it didn’t have to be such a battle? What if it didn’t have to be so hard? Could there ever be an easy way to let go of an attachment? Yes. There is.

Find something better.

They say you don’t get over someone until you find someone or something better. As humans, we don’t deal well with emptiness. Any empty space must be filled. Immediately. The pain of emptiness is too strong. It compels the victim to fill that place. A single moment with an empty spot causes excruciating pain. That’s why we run from distraction to distraction, and from attachment to attachment.

In the quest to free the heart, we speak a lot about breaking our false dependencies. But then there’s always the question of ‘how?’ Once a false attachment has been developed, how do we break free? Often it feels too hard. We get addicted to things, and can’t seem to let them go. Even when they hurt us. Even when they damage our lives and our bond with God. Even when they are so unhealthy for us. We just can’t let them go. We are too dependent on them. We love them too much and in the wrong way. They fill something inside of us that we think we need…that we think we can’t live without. And so, even when we struggle to give them up, we often abandon the struggle because it’s too hard.

Why does that happen? Why do we have so much trouble sacrificing what we love for what God loves? Why can’t we just let go of things? I think we struggle so much with letting go of what we love, because we haven’t found something we love more to replace it.

When a child falls in love with a toy car, he becomes consumed with that love. But what if he can’t have the car? What if he has to walk by the store every day, and see the toy he can’t have? Every time he walks by, he would feel pain. And he may even struggle not to steal it. Yet, what if the child looks past the store window and sees a Real car? What if he sees the Real Ferrari? Would he still struggle with his desire for the toy? Would he still have to fight the urge to steal it? Or would he be able to walk right past the toy—the disparity in greatness annihilating the struggle?

We want love. We want money. We want status. We want this life. And like that child, we too become consumed with these loves. So when we can’t have those things, we are that child in a store, struggling not to steal them. We are struggling not to commit haram for the sake of what we love. We are struggling to let go of the haram relationships, business dealings, actions, dress. We are struggling to let go of the love of this life. We are the stumbling servant struggling to let go of the toy…because it’s all we see.

This whole life and everything in it is like that toy car. We can’t let go of it because we haven’t found something greater. We don’t see the Real thing. The Real version. The Real model.

Allah (swt) says,


“What is the life of this world but amusement and play? But verily the Home in the Hereafter,- that is life indeed, if they but knew.” (29:64)

When describing this life, Allah uses the Arabic word for ‘life’: الْحَيَاةُ. But, when describing the next life, Allah here uses the highly exaggerated term for life, الْحَيَوَانُ. The next life is the Real life. The Realer life. The Real version. And then Allah ends the ayah by saying “If they but knew”. If we could see the Real thing, we could get over our deep love for the lesser, fake model.

In another ayat, Allah says:

“But you prefer the worldly life, while the Hereafter is better and more enduring.” (87:16-17)

The Real version is better in quality (خَيْرٌ) and better in quantity (أَبْقَىٰ). No matter how great what we love in this life is, it will always have some deficiency, in both quality (imperfections) and quantity (temporary).

This is not to say that we cannot have or even love things of this life. As believers we are told to ask for good in this life and the next. But it is like the toy car and the real car. While we could have or even enjoy the toy car, we realize the difference. We understand fully that there is a lesser model (dunya: coming from the root word ‘daniya’, meaning ‘lower’) and there is the Real model (hereafter).

But how does that realization help us in this life? It helps because it makes the ‘struggle’ to follow the halal, and refrain from the haram easier. The more we can see the Real thing, the easier it becomes to give up the ‘unreal’—when necessary. That does not mean we have to give up the ‘unreal’ completely, or all the time. Rather it makes our relationship with the lesser model (dunya) one in which if and when we are asked to give something up for the sake of what is Real, it is no longer difficult. If we are asked to refrain from a prohibition that we want, it becomes easier. If we are asked to be firm in a commandment that we don’t want, it becomes easier. We become the matured child who likes to have the toy, but if ever asked to choose between the toy and the Real thing, see a ‘no-brainer’. For example, many of the Prophet’s (pbuh) companions had wealth. But when the time came, they could easily give half or all of it for Allah’s sake.

This focus also transforms what we petition for help or approval. If we’re in desperate need of something, we will appeal to the servant—only when we don’t see or know the King. But if we’re on our way to meet that King and we run into His servant, we may greet the servant, be kind to the servant, even love the servant. But we will not waste time trying to impress the servant, when there is a King to impress. We will never waste effort appealing to the servant for our need, while the King is the One in control. Even if the King had given some authority to the servant, we’d know very well that the power to give and take rests ultimately with the King—and the King alone. This knowledge comes only from knowing and seeing the King. And this knowledge completely transforms how we interact with the servant.

Seeing the Real thing transforms the way we love. Ibn Taymiyyah (RA) discussed this concept when he said: “If your heart is enslaved by someone who is forbidden for him: One of the main causes for this miserable situation is turning away from Allah, for once the heart has tasted worship of Allah and sincerity towards Him, nothing will be sweeter to it than that, nothing will be more delightful or more precious. No one leaves his beloved except for another one he loves more, or for fear of something else. The heart will give up corrupt love in favor of true love, or for fear of harm.”

One of our greatest problems as an ummah is as the Prophet (pbuh) told us in a hadith: wahn (love of dunya and hatred of death). We’ve fallen in love with dunya. And anytime you are in love, it becomes next to impossible to get over that love or separate from it—until you are able to fall in love with something greater. It is next to impossible to dislodge this destructive love of dunya from our hearts, until we find something greater to replace it. Having found a greater love, it becomes easy to get over another one. When the love of God, His messenger (pbuh) and the Home with Him is really seen, it overpowers and dominates any other love in the heart. The more that love is seen, the more dominate it becomes. And thereby the easier it will be to really actualize the statement of Ibraheem (AS):


“Say, ‘Indeed, my prayer, my service of sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allah, Lord of the worlds.’” (6:162)

So in letting go, the answer lies in love. Fall in love. Fall in love with something greater. Fall in love with the Real thing. See the Mansion.

Only then, will we stop playing in the dollhouse.

RIYA'...Membinasakan Ibadat

Pada suatu waktu sahur, seorang abid membaca Al-Quran, surah "Thoha", di biliknya yang berhampiran dengan jalanraya. Selesai membaca, dia berasa amat mengantuk, lalu tertidur. Dalam tidurnya itu dia bermimpi melihat seorang lelaki turun dari langit membawa senaskhah Al-Quran.

Lelaki itu datang menemuinya dan segera membuka kitab suci itu di depannya. Didedahkannya surah "Thoha" dan dibeleknya halaman demi halaman untuk tatapan si abid. Si abid melihat setiap kalimah surah itu dicatatkan sepuluh kebajikan sebagai pahala bacaannya kecuali satu kalimah sahaja yang catatannya dipadamkan.

Lalu katanya, "Demi Allah, sesungguhnya telahku baca seluruh surah ini tanpa meninggalkan satu kalimah pun". "Tetapi kenapakah catatan pahala untuk kalimah ini dipadamkan?" Lelaki itu berkata.

"Benarlah seperti katamu itu. Engkau memang tidak meninggalkan kalimah itu dalam bacaanmu tadi. Malah, untuk kalimah itu telah kami catatkan pahalanya, tetapi tiba-tiba kami terdengar suara yang menyeru dari arah 'Arasy : 'Padamkan catatan itu dan gugurkan pahala untuk kalimah itu'.

Maka sebab itulah kami segera memadamkannya".

Si abid menangis dalam mimpinya itu dan berkata, "Kenapakah tindakan itu dilakukan?".

"Puncanya engkau sendiri. Ketika membaca surah itu tadi, seorang hamba Allah melewati jalan di depan rumah mu. Engkau sedar hal itu, lalu engkau meninggikan suara bacaanmu supaya didengar oleh hamba Allah itu.

Kalimah yang tiada catatan pahala itulah yang telah engkau baca dengan suara tinggi itu".

Si abid terjaga dari tidurnya. "Astaghfirullaahal-'Azhim! Sungguh licin virus riya' menyusup masuk ke dalam kalbu ku dan sungguh besar kecelakaannya. Dalam sekelip mata sahaja ibadahku dimusnahkannya.

Benarlah kata alim ulama', serangan penyakit riya' atau ujub, boleh membinasakan amal ibadat seseorang hamba Allah selama tujuh puluh tahun".

source : kisah Riya'

p/s: nauzubillah ,berhati-hatilah dengan RIYA'. KIta tidak sedar itu. Hidupnya kita untuk beramal , ruginya kita jika usaha kita di sia-siakan oleh perbuatan kita sendiri,  semoga kita bukan dari kalangan hamba yang ditolak amalnya.